These are excerpts from a talk given by Frederick Lenz. You can find the talk here: Women, Men and Self Realization.
If you’re a man the best way to balance your energy is through love. Women need to work on power and claiming their power and realizing their independence and asserting themselves more and more and not letting others run their lives or ruin their lives.
For men it’s a little bit different. Men have to soften their nature. It’s necessary to practice the yoga of love and to lose interest in power and conquest. In relationships with women it’s necessary to be gentle and to foster the power of women. As a man, what you need to do is learn about surrender and self-giving and humility and self-effacement—if you seek eternity.
It’s best to meditate on love and on the heart and to just learn to love more and more. This will be a painful process for you because men have, by and large, turned off their emotional selves because they’ve been told that being a man means you should turn off your emotional self, and if you don’t you’re a bit of a sissy.
Now, I don’t mean you should become maudlin and wrapped up in emotion. What I’m suggesting is, men need to open their hearts up and learn to love and practice kindness and allow those emotional whirlpools to open up within themselves. I’m suggesting a tone, a feeling, hopefully through my voice and through the vibratory energy that speaks forth at this time, regarding the self-realization of men and women. There are no special techniques. It’s just that everything is backwards—women are viewed as powerless and men are powerful. Both are powerful.
The strength of a man’s character is expressed through gentleness and through love and ultimately through discrimination. You meditate on love, you live in love, love purifies your nature. It removes the stain of selfishness, slowly but surely. Practice meditation and self-giving and work on humility. It’s the most important. Then, after many years of meditating and love, and when your love has become so large that it embraces all of eternity, then you’ll practice discrimination. You’ll go beyond love as we know it. We’ll never leave it, but we’ll experience other things, let’s say. Then you’ll practice discrimination. You’ll dissolve the personal self, which experiences a certain type of love.
For a man to attain liberation, gentleness is the requisite, and love, for many, many years, and to be very gentle with all beings. To be strong but to have a delicacy in your strength; to just practice meditating with love and to become less wrapped up in others; to not abuse women and to not be what you’ve been.
As a man it is necessary to become loving and gentle and kind, to be strong as you can be and to be fearless, a fearless warrior, but at the same time to be delicate and to work on your capacity to love purely.